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was telling a friend about how i've decided not to be sad about my state in BGR, and she asked this question.. "how do you not be sad?" so i'll answer this here, so read on friend-in-question!
admittedly, humanly, i am in a totally lousy state in this affairs of bgr, which i will not elaborate on in here for consideration of privacy. but this much i will let go, it is unrequited love, and it is one which i cannot get over despite trying to for quite some time. ok no more details! don't ask!
so how do you not be sad when someone you are absolutely crazy over, whom you want to spend the rest of your life with does not feel the same way about you? to be a bit more scientifically, let me break it down.
1. you are madly in love with this person.
2. you want him/her in your life so much, that you think you'd give anything for it.
3. life with anybody else would be unimaginable.
4. the other party simply does not feel the same way about you!
and the implication is, you will not get what you want, because love is a two-way affair, which no amount of excess passion from one side can make up for the lack of it from the other. and love is such a big thing. it is hard-wired in us to find contentment in our eves/adams. it is kind of like not getting the thing you want the most. not having the thing that matters to you most.
ok, i am getting off topic trying to create the context. the question is, how do you not be sad?
firstly, it'd be through the gift of faith God has given us. simply, know. note that it is know, not believe, or trust or have faith or whatever. it is know. know that there is a God who holds everything you are in His hands. a God who will provide for each meticulous area if you let Him. know that He loves you, and in this matter of companionship He only wants the best for you. no second best, nothing second rate. what you think is best for you, or what you see as "no other way" may simply not be the best that you can have. the right time, the right person. the One who controls everything wants that for you, so know that.
next, analyze the situation. look at what you have in your life. friend-in-question, you are standing at a great position right now, having a chance to go into uni education, which is a previlige not all has. you also have a great circle of friends, and you're blessed with a beautifully complexed mind that will allow you to see so much of the world no one else sees. your gift will bring you places in life. in some philosophers' theory about life, we are all living in a cave, and there are those who can see the light at the opening of the cave, and there are those who cannot. those who can describe this light to those who cannot, and those who cannot are dependent on these ppl who inteprete the light. you are one of those who sees the light, one of those who can interprete. well to be not case specific, everyone else, count your blessings. how much more do you have in life going for you?
there are so many things that are good in life. so many more things that are pleasant. it is simply not worth it to give up a shot at all that is good in life just because you are sad over a girl/guy. for one, being sad does not get you any closer to getting her/him. second, you are missing out on too much! for all the gifts God has given you with, don't give it up because of one thing He has denied. Know He'll bring it to you in perfect time. and He has provided perfectly for you at this time.
and think about Him, who has relentlessly pursued you since creation. like a lover bringing beautiful flowers to his lover, He has brought us great beauty in His courtship of us as well. look at the stars that freckles the night sky, or feel the way the rain falls. listen to how the wind ruffles the leaves of trees, smell the beauty of exotic spices. all this, He has created in His courtship of you. and most importantly, think about the scars in His hands, and remember the extent of His love. He loved you so greatly that He died for you. and each stripe upon His back, He bore for you. for you. He was pierced for your transgressions, and by His stripes you were healed. how much did that cost, how much is that worth! why not take moments to busk in His love for you, instead of pursuing a lesser love from a lesser someone else?
how not to be sad? simply take your place in this romance story. this romance story of beauty and eternity. this God romance. and all else will come. He holds your love story in His hands. know that.
admittedly, humanly, i am in a totally lousy state in this affairs of bgr, which i will not elaborate on in here for consideration of privacy. but this much i will let go, it is unrequited love, and it is one which i cannot get over despite trying to for quite some time. ok no more details! don't ask!
so how do you not be sad when someone you are absolutely crazy over, whom you want to spend the rest of your life with does not feel the same way about you? to be a bit more scientifically, let me break it down.
1. you are madly in love with this person.
2. you want him/her in your life so much, that you think you'd give anything for it.
3. life with anybody else would be unimaginable.
4. the other party simply does not feel the same way about you!
and the implication is, you will not get what you want, because love is a two-way affair, which no amount of excess passion from one side can make up for the lack of it from the other. and love is such a big thing. it is hard-wired in us to find contentment in our eves/adams. it is kind of like not getting the thing you want the most. not having the thing that matters to you most.
ok, i am getting off topic trying to create the context. the question is, how do you not be sad?
firstly, it'd be through the gift of faith God has given us. simply, know. note that it is know, not believe, or trust or have faith or whatever. it is know. know that there is a God who holds everything you are in His hands. a God who will provide for each meticulous area if you let Him. know that He loves you, and in this matter of companionship He only wants the best for you. no second best, nothing second rate. what you think is best for you, or what you see as "no other way" may simply not be the best that you can have. the right time, the right person. the One who controls everything wants that for you, so know that.
next, analyze the situation. look at what you have in your life. friend-in-question, you are standing at a great position right now, having a chance to go into uni education, which is a previlige not all has. you also have a great circle of friends, and you're blessed with a beautifully complexed mind that will allow you to see so much of the world no one else sees. your gift will bring you places in life. in some philosophers' theory about life, we are all living in a cave, and there are those who can see the light at the opening of the cave, and there are those who cannot. those who can describe this light to those who cannot, and those who cannot are dependent on these ppl who inteprete the light. you are one of those who sees the light, one of those who can interprete. well to be not case specific, everyone else, count your blessings. how much more do you have in life going for you?
there are so many things that are good in life. so many more things that are pleasant. it is simply not worth it to give up a shot at all that is good in life just because you are sad over a girl/guy. for one, being sad does not get you any closer to getting her/him. second, you are missing out on too much! for all the gifts God has given you with, don't give it up because of one thing He has denied. Know He'll bring it to you in perfect time. and He has provided perfectly for you at this time.
and think about Him, who has relentlessly pursued you since creation. like a lover bringing beautiful flowers to his lover, He has brought us great beauty in His courtship of us as well. look at the stars that freckles the night sky, or feel the way the rain falls. listen to how the wind ruffles the leaves of trees, smell the beauty of exotic spices. all this, He has created in His courtship of you. and most importantly, think about the scars in His hands, and remember the extent of His love. He loved you so greatly that He died for you. and each stripe upon His back, He bore for you. for you. He was pierced for your transgressions, and by His stripes you were healed. how much did that cost, how much is that worth! why not take moments to busk in His love for you, instead of pursuing a lesser love from a lesser someone else?
how not to be sad? simply take your place in this romance story. this romance story of beauty and eternity. this God romance. and all else will come. He holds your love story in His hands. know that.
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