choose to love?
love. is it a matter of choice, or just a feeling that is repressible and undeniable?
against the case of love being uncontrollable, perhaps if we throw away what the television tells us about love, love could actually be something one chooses, and not directed at one that you cannot help but fall in love with.
to fall in love, one would first have to allow himself to think the best of the other party, and humble himself to see that the other may really have good qualities that he admires. that is a choice to, especially in a meritocratic world, where self-worth is build up by enhancing the image of self, to make yourself better than others. this is pretty much a choice to make, to put your ego down and see the best in someone else.
to fall out of love, it is practically impossible to unless one takes active steps to move on. that again, is a choice one must make to move on, because of unrequited love, an unworkable relationship or death, or the worst things. but even when one has been madly in love, there are those who have had to move on, and there are many who have.
but yet, the very workings of the heart sometimes make it impossible to see love in this way. when you fall in love, it feels like a rollercoaster ride, where you have no accelerator nor brake to step on. making a choice to get on leaves you with only the choice to stay on or jump ship.
but uncontrollable as it is, we do have a choice. we can choose our actions to reflect love. and i've learnt that love isn't about the candlelit dinners, the sparks, or the pure sweetness that abounds between two. love, most of the time, takes on a much deeper tone.
like the mother who has to give her children away so that they can have a shot at even growing up. who is to say that the mother does not love her children? deep inside her, it must have hurt her so.
or the pair of lovers apart. both denying themselves a big part of their current lives to stay true to each other. love is sweet, but who can say there is no hurt in stifling their needs for current gratification.
like those conscripted to war, or to another higher calling. who has to be away from their family, for a greater good, to serve others. love for their family and friends would have hurt him so much, yet staying on in wherever they're called, giving up their love so others can be safe and served and have theirs.
and the Saviour who was blameless yet hung on a cross to die for His people. it was for love that He was crucified.
that is why even if this messy affair, love, is giving you a rough touch in your life, you can know He knows how it feels too. every hurt, every wince, He has it worse. and He loves you to want to heal your hurt. believe me, He loves you. believe Him.
Hillsong - I will love
I will love You Lord, my strength
I belong to You
I will bless You while I live
And I will lift my hands up in Your name
Jesus, You alone are holy
You alone are holy
Name above every name
Lord Jesus, You alone are worthy
You alone are worthy
Jesus, the Lamb that was slain
Nailed to the cross for me
Died and rose again
You redeemed me to the Father by Your blood
You cleansed me from all sin
against the case of love being uncontrollable, perhaps if we throw away what the television tells us about love, love could actually be something one chooses, and not directed at one that you cannot help but fall in love with.
to fall in love, one would first have to allow himself to think the best of the other party, and humble himself to see that the other may really have good qualities that he admires. that is a choice to, especially in a meritocratic world, where self-worth is build up by enhancing the image of self, to make yourself better than others. this is pretty much a choice to make, to put your ego down and see the best in someone else.
to fall out of love, it is practically impossible to unless one takes active steps to move on. that again, is a choice one must make to move on, because of unrequited love, an unworkable relationship or death, or the worst things. but even when one has been madly in love, there are those who have had to move on, and there are many who have.
but yet, the very workings of the heart sometimes make it impossible to see love in this way. when you fall in love, it feels like a rollercoaster ride, where you have no accelerator nor brake to step on. making a choice to get on leaves you with only the choice to stay on or jump ship.
but uncontrollable as it is, we do have a choice. we can choose our actions to reflect love. and i've learnt that love isn't about the candlelit dinners, the sparks, or the pure sweetness that abounds between two. love, most of the time, takes on a much deeper tone.
like the mother who has to give her children away so that they can have a shot at even growing up. who is to say that the mother does not love her children? deep inside her, it must have hurt her so.
or the pair of lovers apart. both denying themselves a big part of their current lives to stay true to each other. love is sweet, but who can say there is no hurt in stifling their needs for current gratification.
like those conscripted to war, or to another higher calling. who has to be away from their family, for a greater good, to serve others. love for their family and friends would have hurt him so much, yet staying on in wherever they're called, giving up their love so others can be safe and served and have theirs.
and the Saviour who was blameless yet hung on a cross to die for His people. it was for love that He was crucified.
that is why even if this messy affair, love, is giving you a rough touch in your life, you can know He knows how it feels too. every hurt, every wince, He has it worse. and He loves you to want to heal your hurt. believe me, He loves you. believe Him.
Hillsong - I will love
I will love You Lord, my strength
I belong to You
I will bless You while I live
And I will lift my hands up in Your name
Jesus, You alone are holy
You alone are holy
Name above every name
Lord Jesus, You alone are worthy
You alone are worthy
Jesus, the Lamb that was slain
Nailed to the cross for me
Died and rose again
You redeemed me to the Father by Your blood
You cleansed me from all sin
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